With everything that's been going on you'd think I'd be writing more. One thing I've learned about myself...when I'm a little stressed I talk a lot. When I'm super stressed...
I get quiet. I shut down. At least for a time.
But after a while I need to start opening up, or else all the thoughts and feelings and anxiety starts revealing itself in not so happy ways.
Panic attacks.
Insomnia.
Feeling like something is squeezing my chest and making it difficult to breathe.
Tired all the time.
Overwhelmed.
I'm learning that it's possible to feel all these things and yet still trust God. I used to berate myself when I got anxious or overwhelmed - thinking it was a sign of a lack of faith. The more I get to know God, I realize that He wants me to bring these emotions to Him, not try to erase them or hide them from Him, or from others, and even from myself.
I've spent a significant amount of my life pretending that everything was ok. Even in the worst of circumstances, I can convince others and even myself that I'm fine. And I even believe it sometimes. I numb out with a variety of things (food has always been my favorite) that shield me from experiencing the thing, maybe not completely but at least not so intensely.
I think in a crisis that defense mechanism can be useful and helpful to get through it. But there comes a time when the numbing out isn't healthy anymore and I have to peel away some layers and deal with them.
I'm there.
For someone who has lived a lifetime with an intense fear of something going wrong at any moment, the rug being pulled out from under my feet, or getting blind-sided by something unexpected and painful and terrifying...having your husband almost die from a "widow maker" heart attack can threaten to reclaim all the ground you have gained in prayer and therapy.
Here's where I'm tempted to get all "BUT GOD!" and tell of how He has given me amazing peace and unwavering faith and how He's carried me through and I've come out stronger on the other side of this.
That would sound pretty impressive and spiritual and I'd probably hear a lot of amens. But I'd be pretending again. At least partly.
The truth is, God has given me peace. And He's also let me experience being terrified. Maybe so I'd cling to Him harder. And maybe so I learn on a deeper level to trust Him to be with me and give me what I need in the moment, no matter what happens.
Even if the worst happens.
God has given me strength to be there for my husband when he has needed me most. And God has also let me experience feeling weak and overwhelmed and scared.
Maybe so I'd cling to Him harder.
As if my life depended on Him.
Because it does.
